How to Embrace Your Mixed Heritage

Times have definitely changed and it is wonderful to see the progress in inclusivity and our own communities providing the answers to our needs. However the battle could still be on the inside. So how does a mixed race person navigate a society still entrenched with racism, prejudice and divisiveness? Below are 10 steps I take to reaffirm the celebration of my mixed race heritage:



  1. Research your history without judgement - knowing where you are from allows you to confidently walk through life with your head held high in confidence. Did your parents confront prejudice and racism? How did they meet? What was society saying back then?

  2. Define your own values - it is ok to love your white and black family. What is important are your values and belief system.

  3. You do not have to “pick a side”

  4. Don’t apologize for your existence - you are meant to be here, you are worthy, the world is blessed to have you

  5. Embrace the texture - so many products out there for mixed textured hair. Research and feed the curls! Straighten your hair if you want. Variety is the spice of life and you are a spice!

  6. Speak to your siblings about your own experiences. They may not be the same for all of you.

  7. Acknowledge certain privileges we have in terms of the lightskin labels society still uphold, (because they are real and still very present *eye roll*) and support the voices of our black and brown sisters

  8. Find your community; whether in support groups, your crew, social media groups.

  9. Keep affirming to yourself: “I love you, I embrace every freckle, curve, birthmark, and mole about you, I am whole”

  10. Now strut your stuff!